Couples Counseling

Marriage Counseling

It might feel like you’ve been having the same fight for months, even years.

Every time it’s slightly different, but the feelings it brings up are always the same.  The worst thing is that you don’t know what will set it off next. A simple argument about the dishes might turn into a full-blown fight about who said what.

How long can we go on like this? Is it time for marriage counseling or couples therapy?

The tension, anger, and resentment has been building up for some time.  It’s hard to imagine being apart, but it’s painful to stay together. You’re stuck in a negative cycle and it’s hard to know how to change it. With demanding jobs, children, and other obligations, there is no time to talk, have a date night, or have sex.

What you've tried to help your marriage hasn't worked.

Perhaps you’ve made attempts to reconnect, to be the bigger person, only to feel ignored and betrayed. You might have tried to make things better, only to be told to “get off my back, you’re always nagging me!”.

Distance, resentment, silence. Repeat. It’s like a non-funny version of Groundhog Day. If this sounds like the dynamic of your relationship, it could be time to consider to consider marriage counseling. 

A couple lays together on the couch. They are feeling happy after starting marriage counseling in Dallas, TX with Rethink Therapy.
A couple sits on top of a car leaning into each other. They are feeling more connected since starting premarital counseling in Dallas, TX with Rethink Therapy.

Common Reasons Couples Start Marriage Counseling

Every relationship is different and comes with its own baggage. Further, couples start marriage counseling for different reasons. Our experience as marriage counselors shows us that there are some common reasons couples have started marriage counseling:

These are only a few of the many reasons couples pursue marriage counseling. To learn about other reasons couples start marriage counseling, explore this article.

Marriage Counseling in Dallas, TX or Online Marriage Counseling in Texas Can Help

The tension, anger, and resentment has been building up for some time.  It’s hard to imagine being apart, but it’s painful to stay together. You’re stuck in a negative cycle and it’s hard to know how to change it. With demanding jobs, children, and other obligations, there is no time to talk, have a date night, or have sex.

What you've tried to help your marriage hasn't worked.

We get it. Things in your relationship are not going according to plan. It feels like nothing works. You often think that it’s because you, or maybe your partner, is always doing something wrong. This is exhausting and can be isolating. But, you should know that you’re not alone. Many couples have been exactly where you are. How do I know? We’ve helped those couples! As marriage counselors, we’ve worked with many couples at different points in their relationship. In addition, we’ve worked with couples experiencing a wide range of issues. Through marriage counseling, they’ve been able to improve their relationship and happiness with the each other.

It’s not necessarily what you do, but it’s what you do after what you have done, that is the key to good communication.

A couple embrace each other. They are happy after starting premarital counseling in Dallas, TX with Rethink Therapy.

So, what are you waiting for?

For your relationship to improve?

This might be something you need outside support for. It doesn’t mean that’s there’s something wrong with you or that “you aren’t trying hard enough.”

Instead, it means that sometimes relationships are really hard. And, if you’re brave enough to admit it, you need someone else to step in and guide you through it.

Our Approach to Marriage Counseling in Dallas, TX

There is no need to suffer any longer! Don’t risk your happiness and connection because of fear or stubbornness. Marriage counseling offers a calm, structured environment where everyone can be heard and feel understood.

Our marriage counselors provide a space where you can express yourself fully. We will listen both to what you say and to what you don’t say. This is important, as it can help to identify the underlying issues beneath the surface disagreements.

We will deal with the individual negative patterns each person brings to the relationship. In addition, we’ll find ways you can change them.

Our experienced marriage counselors are here to help.

Meet Our Therapists

Begin Marriage Counseling in Dallas, TX or Online Marriage Counseling in Texas

Your relationship is not where you want it to be. It doesn’t feel like you’re in this ‘together.’ This is something we can help with through online marriage counseling in Texas or in my Dallas counseling clinic. Our marriage counselors have helped many couples going through exactly what you are right now. When you’re ready to being marriage counseling, follow these steps.

Jennifer Gay

LMFT-S

While my formal training and education provided a solid foundation for my development as a therapist, I attribute most of my professional growth to my clients. I have chosen to pursue trainings and education that are directly applicable to the clients I am working with and the experiences and concerns that they are bringing into therapy. If you ever hear a therapist tell you that they have learned all they can or that they have all of their own shit together all the time – run for the hills! I will never know everything there is to know about therapy, have experience working with everything that clients bring, and be competent in everything in my work – but I will do my hardest to continue my growth and learning to do the best I can in my work with you.

I am a systemically trained therapist, which means that I view each person in the context of their experiences and relationships around them, both past and present. I also work from a collaborative therapy lens, and so I believe that each client is an expert of their own lives and experiences while I am an expert on the process of therapy. I see myself as walking beside you on your journey, whether or not we know where the path leads. My goal is to get you to a place where you can walk this path on your own, but along the way I will guide you, I will support you, and I will challenge you. Even if you feel overwhelmed or unsure about what you want from therapy, or what “change” you want to see, it’s OK! We’ll figure it out together.

So if I am the expert, “what do you know and how can you help me?”, you may ask.

Specialized Training

To meet the needs of the couples I have been seeing, I completed my training in discernment counseling. To meet the needs of many of my individual clients, I completed Phases 1 – 3 of Brainspotting, which I have found incredibly helpful in addressing trauma, anxiety, disordered eating behaviors, grief, and struggles with gender dysphoria, among other concerns. I have also attended a specialized training in Expansion Brainspotting, which focuses on improving athletic performance and creativity, and strengthening our desired states of being and getting us closer to our ideal states; it has also been very helpful in working on strong suicidal ideation and feelings of hopelessness.

As a result of my experiences with Brainspotting, I have also been pursuing education on growing my understanding of the neurobiology and neuroscience and working with trauma and various dissociative experiences (including PTSD, BPD, and OSDD/DID).

As a result of my work with queer and trans clients, I have discovered a lot of overlap in gender diversity and neurodiversity – so I am working on my growth as a neurodiversity affirming therapist.

My clients

In my work with different clients in different settings, I have experience with a wide range of individual and relational concerns. However, I have a specific passion in working with people who may fall on the margins or be seen as “outsiders” in many different ways, especially given that we live in Texas.

Specifically, I do a lot of work with LGBTQIA+ folks, including working with people who are transgender or gender diverse. I work with folks who fall into various non-traditional relationships: consensual/ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamorous relationships, swinging, etc. I work with folks in the kink/BDSM communities, or those who practice kink/BDSM. I also do a lot of work with folks who have distanced themselves from their religious upbringing for various reasons, or who practice less dominant religious and/or spiritual approaches or who are atheist/agnostic/secular/nonreligious. I am knowledgeable and affirming in my work with all these communities.

Belonging to any of the above communities doesn’t necessarily mean that something is “wrong” with you, but having to deal with the discrimination, hatred, and lack of support or understanding from people around you or the society at large is not easy. Many of the clients I see also seek me out because they know that I won’t use their identity, relationship status, kinks, spirituality/religion or lack of it as a problem that needs to be fixed or that is causing their depression, anxiety, relationship problems, and so on.

The relationship between therapist and client is crucial to positive outcomes.

One of the strongest and most consistent predictors of positive outcomes in therapy is the relationship between us. As such, it is important to me that you feel that you feel connected and supported in our work together. I know that I will not be the best fit for everyone who reaches out – and that’s ok! Our initial consultation, as well as the first few sessions, can give you a good sense of our therapeutic alliance together.

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Neli Morris

PhD, LMFT-S

Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

And I don’t know about you, but I hardly ever even use the “normal” setting when I do my laundry! While there are a lot of messages in our society and in our immediate circles around what is supposed to be “normal,” I am here to help you find your “normal,” not the culture’s/society’s/family’s version of normal.

My Experiences & Approach

While my formal training and education provided a solid foundation for my development as a therapist, I attribute most of my professional growth to my clients. I have chosen to pursue trainings and education that are directly applicable to the clients I am working with and the experiences and concerns that they are bringing into therapy. If you ever hear a therapist tell you that they have learned all they can or that they have all of their own shit together all the time – run for the hills! I will never know everything there is to know about therapy, have experience working with everything that clients bring, and be competent in everything in my work – but I will do my hardest to continue my growth and learning to do the best I can in my work with you.

I am a systemically trained therapist, which means that I view each person in the context of their experiences and relationships around them, both past and present. I also work from a collaborative therapy lens, and so I believe that each client is an expert of their own lives and experiences while I am an expert on the process of therapy. I see myself as walking beside you on your journey, whether or not we know where the path leads. My goal is to get you to a place where you can walk this path on your own, but along the way I will guide you, I will support you, and I will challenge you. Even if you feel overwhelmed or unsure about what you want from therapy, or what “change” you want to see, it’s OK! We’ll figure it out together.

                                           

Specialized Training

To meet the needs of the couples I have been seeing, I completed my training in discernment counseling. To meet the needs of many of my individual clients, I completed Phases 1 – 3 of Brainspotting, which I have found incredibly helpful in addressing trauma, anxiety, disordered eating behaviors, grief, and struggles with gender dysphoria, among other concerns. I have also attended a specialized training in Expansion Brainspotting, which focuses on improving athletic performance and creativity, and strengthening our desired states of being and getting us closer to our ideal states; it has also been very helpful in working on strong suicidal ideation and feelings of hopelessness.

As a result of my experiences with Brainspotting, I have also been pursuing education on growing my understanding of the neurobiology and neuroscience and working with trauma and various dissociative experiences (including PTSD, BPD, and OSDD/DID).

As a result of my work with queer and trans clients, I have discovered a lot of overlap in gender diversity and neurodiversity – so I am working on my growth as a neurodiversity affirming therapist.

My clients

In my work with different clients in different settings, I have experience with a wide range of individual and relational concerns. However, I have a specific passion in working with people who may fall on the margins or be seen as “outsiders” in many different ways, especially given that we live in Texas.

Specifically, I do a lot of work with LGBTQIA+ folks, including working with people who are transgender or gender diverse. I work with folks who fall into various non-traditional relationships: consensual/ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamorous relationships, swinging, etc. I work with folks in the kink/BDSM communities, or those who practice kink/BDSM. I also do a lot of work with folks who have distanced themselves from their religious upbringing for various reasons, or who practice less dominant religious and/or spiritual approaches or who are atheist/agnostic/secular/nonreligious. I am knowledgeable and affirming in my work with all these communities.

Belonging to any of the above communities doesn’t necessarily mean that something is “wrong” with you, but having to deal with the discrimination, hatred, and lack of support or understanding from people around you or the society at large is not easy. Many of the clients I see also seek me out because they know that I won’t use their identity, relationship status, kinks, spirituality/religion or lack of it as a problem that needs to be fixed or that is causing their depression, anxiety, relationship problems, and so on.

The relationship between therapist and client is crucial to positive outcomes.

One of the strongest and most consistent predictors of positive outcomes in therapy is the relationship between us. As such, it is important to me that you feel that you feel connected and supported in our work together. I know that I will not be the best fit for everyone who reaches out – and that’s ok! Our initial consultation, as well as the first few sessions, can give you a good sense of our therapeutic alliance together.

Contact Me

Kaylin Hernandez

LMFT-A

Meet Kaylin

Aren’t you tired of being compared to the generations that came before or after you? Being judged and criticized for what you are or are not? Comparing, being compared, and never feeling like you are good enough.  I’ll admit, I’m guilty of this too. 

I grew up in a big, loud, and most of the time, chaotic Mexican family, I know what it’s like to be afraid to ask questions, to speak up,  and to try to do things differently. Because if I did, I would be faced with the question from everyone, including myself of, “who do you think you are”?

As the oldest in my family I always cared deeply for everyone (it was my job), and I forgot about taking care of myself, sound familiar?

In our families, which often carries in to our adult lives, we often struggled to feel seen or heard, and are made to feel like your emotions don’t matter, or they are just plain misunderstood. Which ultimately leaves us feeling like we’re alone in this big and sometimes terrifying world. That s**t is hard!

As a human (who happens to be a therapist) I recognize that the world I grew up in was vastly different than those around me, however, the emotions are almost universal.

Wether you are an adolescent or an adult, you are probably experiencing  significant changes and transitions in your life – and in case no one told you…Change is normal and you are not alone!

Through our work together I will support, empower, and walk with  you as you navigate this big, scary, fun, messy, and beautiful world.

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