As a therapist, I know that I have a job to do. My only agenda is to help you feel more in control of your world, and more fulfilled with your life and relationships. I do this in a variety of ways. Additionally, I’m an open book. You can expect me to be non-judgmental to all kinds of thoughts, feelings, and lifestyles. I’ve worked with many different people experiencing all kinds of different situations, so, I’m not naïve. I know that relationships are not like in the movies. They look and feel different and that they come in all shapes and sizes!
As a couples therapist, what makes me so confident that I can help?
I’ve put in the effort to be qualified for this kind of work. In fact, 1,500 of my 3,000 training hours were spent helping couples and families (I know!). This served as a great opportunity for me to get really familiar with different family dynamics. In addition, I got the chance to work with individuals, couples, and families at all different stages of their relationship. Since I received my license as a marriage counselor, I’ve helped thousands of people and have gained experience with almost every problem you could think of!
Beyond my formal training, much of my empathy and understanding comes from dealing with my own s**t!
I grew up in a less-than-ideal household. Addiction and abuse were in no short supply. Shortly after, I found myself dealing with an abusive marriage that was followed by a divorce with kids involved. This is something I do not wish on anyone. I became passionate about understanding how to move past our difficulties and setbacks. I learned what it takes to build strong relationships and connections after a lifetime of struggling to do this.
Education and experience has taught me many things. The biggest, and the one that stuck, was that people are not inherently weak. Actually, we’re warriors. Dealing with the hardships that life throws at us is really tough stuff, and it can seem like there’s no way to make it through. Yes, it sucks. Yes, it’s hard. But, it’s possible! As someone qualified to provide marriage therapy and individual therapy, I am here to be your guide, and I can help support you through your own journey from pain and confusion to ease and joy.
Aren’t you tired of being compared to the generations that came before or after you? Being judged and criticized for what you are or are not? Comparing, being compared, and never feeling like you are good enough. I’ll admit, I’m guilty of this too.
I grew up in a big, loud, and most of the time, chaotic Mexican family, I know what it’s like to be afraid to ask questions, to speak up, and to try to do things differently. Because if I did, I would be faced with the question from everyone, including myself of, “who do you think you are”?
As the oldest in my family I always cared deeply for everyone (it was my job), and I forgot about taking care of myself, sound familiar?
In our families, which often carries in to our adult lives, we often struggled to feel seen or heard, and are made to feel like your emotions don’t matter, or they are just plain misunderstood. Which ultimately leaves us feeling like we’re alone in this big and sometimes terrifying world. That s**t is hard!
As a human (who happens to be a therapist) I recognize that the world I grew up in was vastly different than those around me, however, the emotions are almost universal.
Wether you are an adolescent or an adult, you are probably experiencing significant changes and transitions in your life – and in case no one told you…Change is normal and you are not alone!
Through our work together I will support, empower, and walk with you as you navigate this big, scary, fun, messy, and beautiful world.